If you need somewhere to stay inAmsterdam, I think I found it. Haven’t stayed there myself, but its got to be entertaining at least. Did u ever read ‘The Happy Hooker’ by Xaviera Hollander? I was given a copy at 15, read it many times and decided then that the life of a hooker didn’t need to be all bad. I was seduced by the detail, the real-life stories, obviously when I met ‘hookers’ it was not nearly as glamorous, but then Xaviera was a Madam so she called the shots! Look it was a long time ago when I last read it, but it was one of those books that made a huge impact on me when my contemporaries were reading Shakespeare, I ‘d choose Xaviera any day. Shalespeare went straight over my head and at 15 I was far more interested in raw reality. My curiosity took me to the streets of Hillbrow,Johannesburgwhen even at that time it was sordid and seedy. I’d sit with the ‘tramps’ atJoubertParkwhilst they drank meths covered in brown paper bags rambling on about their failed marriages and careers they once had.

Xaviera is now 69, been married, gay and now married again and runs a B&B in Amsterdam. On my last trip toAmsterdam I stayed in a gay B&B, I think the owners were quite disappointed when my husband arrived the next day, disappointed that I didn’t leave! If I had, there would’ve been much gay frivolity, but that’s another story.

Its good that we can talk about these things. Prostitution is the oldest profession, some of our fathers, brothers and need I say it, husbands have at least tried it. Of course a woman cant drive up to a guy hanging on the street corner and ask to be licked, but a man is welcome to pay a hooker for a blowjob. Speaking to a gay friend the other night I was surprised to find out that he preferred blowjobs to giving/receiving penetration. Interesting that in some gay sex, oral sex can be the limit, as a woman I cant imagine that being the case with a man. A blowjob only?

So after much thought I trailed the sites and found this link on how to give the best blow-job, tips from ‘working girls’. http://www.ivillage.com/15-oral-sex-tips/6-b-327504?nlcid=ls|06-14-2012| When discussing this with friends we decided that the best person to ask would be a gay man and we are thinking of setting up ‘ladies nights’ and have a gay guy teach us some tricks. Of course the scales wont be balanced, as some men think they are the experts on oral sex, and few are keen to learn what we like, or get put off by being told what to do. Please note I have tried to be as P.C. as I can by saying ‘some’. Obviously I didn’t write ‘happy hooker’ and don’t quite have her experience, but I will come back as a man in my next life to at least experience paying for sex!!